8/9/2017

8 Reasons Why It's Best To Call It Quits

We are all searching for our one true love in life. While some are lucky enough to find it early, others are unfortunately stuck in a marriage in which they are no longer in love with their partner. Between the wedding bells and your first marriage counselor appointment, something was lost. Sometimes, there is no way of going back to what it used to be, and it's best to call it quits. We’ve outlined 8 reasons why it's best to call it quits.

Your Needs Aren’t Being Fulfilled

You entered your marriage with the intentions of the both of you being there for one another. Now you are seeing that this is not the case. You deserve emotional support from your partner as it is essential to any relationship, and without it, yours doesn’t stand a chance. The most common reason given for divorce is “lack of commitment” at 73%.

You No Longer Feel Sexually Attracted

At first you couldn’t keep your hands off each other, now you sleep facing opposite directions. It is fine to fall out of the honeymoon phase, but losing physical attraction for your partner is not. In fact, 61% of men between the ages of 45 and 55 say a good sex life is a critical part of a healthy relationship.

You No Longer Trust Them

Trust is an essential part in every marriage and lack of it can destroy even the strongest bond. Everyone may deserve a second chance, but only if you are capable of giving it. If you two lose the trust you once had, there isn’t much you can do about it. Two out of three (63%) of married Americans say they would get a divorce if they found out they had a sexual affair.

You Don’t Feel Safe Around Them

There many different kinds of relationship violence including situational couple violence and intimate partner terrorism. Situational violence is when one partner abuses the other partner infrequently while intimate partner terrorism occurs more frequently. Both of these situations are very damaging. As a result of domestic abuse, 29% of people get divorced.

You Are Only Staying Because of Religion

While many people have a particular religion or belief they live by, that doesn’t mean it's okay to stay in a unhappy situation due to these beliefs. It is one thing to be faithful in your religious background, but that shouldn’t be what's holding your marriage together. Restricting yourself in a marriage that doesn’t make you happy is unhealthy.

You Are Heading In Different Directions

We no longer live in a time when each gender has their own role in a marriage. Rather, we now see more women going out in the workforce while men are staying at home taking care of the children. These changes can bring out arguments between partners concerning finances. In fact, women only earn more than their partner 25-30% of the time.

You Love Someone New

Being involved in a love triangle at one point in your life is not uncommon, but when you are married, your relationship status should not be that complicated. You gave yourself to your significant other and they did the same for you. If you truly love someone else, you owe it to yourself to pursue it. However, that means cutting ties first. It’s important to remain honest with your partner and cut ties if you find yourself in this situation.

You Are Only Thinking of “You” And Not Your Partner

This whole time you are thinking of you and not the well-being of your partner. At one point, you’d fly to the moon and back for them, but now you want to start doing things for yourself. If you are no longer in love, it may be time to end your marriage.

The most important thing you need to know is that this isn’t the end, it's a new beginning. The memories you created will never leave you. You will learn from them and you may cherish some of them. Change is not always bad and calling it quits is not losing. It's proof that you finally understand your feelings and have the courage to move forward.